Patriarchy - Suffer With Me (Live In London)

Suffer With Me is a vital chapter in the story of Patriarchy—a band born in seclusion but perfected on stage. Named after a lyric in fan-favorite track “Suffer,” the title embodies singer Actually’s invitation to the listener, just as she does the live audience, to join her in an intensely physical, passionate exploration of the songs that have defined the past few years of her life. There are no half measures here—Actually and The Drummer leave everything on stage. Blood and sweat are common, clothing is optional, and the audience is never spared the gory details. This is the culmination of The Unself era, and the band proudly welcomes the uninitiated into the suffering.

Patriarchy spent the past three years tearing through Europe and North America, earning a reputation as an unmissable live act. Fans would often comment that the band’s raw, unhinged energy on stage is a different beast from their studio albums—so they set out to properly capture it.

Recorded live at a sold-out Moth Club—London’s infamous underground haunt—this album marks their electrifying London debut after two reschedules. The show capped off their 30 date European tour, well rehearsed and razor sharp, they delivered a performance that demanded to be immortalized.

Moth Club’s in-house engineer (and longtime friend) Jack Milwaukee of M!R!M worked closely with the band to craft a meticulous recording setup. Ambient mics caught every visceral detail—from The Drummer’s improvisational hammering on metal poles and noise machine, to Actually’s off-mic screams, rattling shakers, and deafening guitar noise.

Presented with minimal edits, the album keeps every improvised interlude intact, cutting only one unreleased track.

This is Patriarchy, raw and unfiltered—just as they were meant to be heard.

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